RESULT

: My car will call my mobile and text me when the alarm has been activated
Just need to put everything back together now...sorry about missing the meet
FYI: On the TVSS system its the black / silver cable (pin 3 I think). I had it working on the red/white wire but everytime I opened the door it sent me a text
Easiest way to find the cable on any alarm system (without stripping wires) is to jam a paper clip into the plug of the various alarm ECU pins and use a multimeter to measure the voltage at various conditions (i.e Alarm on, off, doors open, etc).
Basically what I needed was a wire that when the alarm was activated it carried a 0V voltage for 3 seconds or more. (you can use a relay on positively triggered alarms)....well thats Saturdays job sorted!